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  1. Valerie
    October 13, 2016 @ 11:27 am

    This is interesting and very much how I feel. My husband is retired, but it still rules our lives more than I would like and more than he will admit. I love that he has something he enjoys so much, but the obsessive workouts, obsessive eating regiment (won’t eat ANYTHING outside of his special diet and even weighs his food) and the fact that he can’t do anything outside of this because he’s too spent is really taking it’s toll. I wish there could be balance. Do Tri’s ever find balance? I’m feeling pretty down about all of this and certainly don’t feel like we are a team. Any insights appreciated!

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    • TriWivesClub
      October 14, 2016 @ 8:29 am

      Hi Valerie. We have struggled with this for a long time. How long has your husband been doing triathlons? Why I ask is because they all seem totally gung ho in the beginning and ease up a bit as the years go by. My husband started weighing food, but that lasted maybe a week, before he got tired of it. Seriously, the best thing that has worked for us is communication and not to let bad feelings fester. Some things you have to accept like routines around races, but it truly can’t be all about them. We talk about training and race schedules so I know what outside activities I can schedule that won’t interfere with his training. I also find things to do to occupy my time while he’s on 5 hour bike rides on the weekends! I will also say his coach has helped tremendously as he is an advocate for balance and family life, but a lot of people don’t have that. We’re happy to help in any way we can.

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  2. Lindsay Berkebile
    October 13, 2016 @ 12:20 pm

    Plain and simple it’s because you love your person, and therefore want to support their passions and what makes them happy 🙂 that’s how it should be!

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    • TriWivesClub
      October 13, 2016 @ 1:36 pm

      That’s VERY true, but it does get wearing after all these years!! Ask your mother. But that is why when I saw the smile on his face, we were BOTH back in…

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  3. Jodi
    October 13, 2016 @ 10:54 pm

    Yep. It is hard sometimes… but then I go to a race and I realize I get as much joy from the day as my hubby and daughter do. I love it. Spectating and supporting is MY gig! Especially the travel to great places with like minded folks…our Tri-family!

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    • TriWivesClub
      October 14, 2016 @ 8:14 am

      That’s what happened at his first race. He was just so darned happy to be in that wetsuit, I knew I’d have to suck it all up!

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  4. Jodi
    October 13, 2016 @ 10:56 pm

    Ps. Don’t let him make the race schedule without us doing some together!!!!

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    • TriWivesClub
      October 14, 2016 @ 8:13 am

      I think he’s just going to do halfs next year to ease himself back in. LP for sure in Sept. Otherwise, still trying to decide and of course, may do a full. Do you guys have anything scheduled?

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