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  1. Lindsay Berkebile
    March 4, 2015 @ 9:37 am

    I LOVED this article! Life should be about what makes you happy not what other ppl this makes people happy in general. Great hearing form this perspective! also that text message was so flipping cute 🙂

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    • triwivesclub
      March 4, 2015 @ 9:48 am

      I should know you’d approve! Not too mushy? Hope you’re doing well…

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  2. Lindsay Berkebile
    March 5, 2015 @ 7:43 pm

    never too mushy for this love bug <3

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    • triwivesclub
      March 5, 2015 @ 8:15 pm

      Did you get the love bug gene from your mom or dad???

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  3. Jen
    March 5, 2015 @ 11:06 pm

    YES! Being a parent is a choice. It’s a brilliant, amazing, wonderful choice that is emotional and totally worth every moment. Your family makes me smile. I hope to meet your kids some day. They sound incredible, and I love that you are so supportive and involved with them when they are out fulfilling their own destinies.

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    • triwivesclub
      March 6, 2015 @ 8:29 am

      Thanks Jen! And yes, you will get to meet them. They will be home for the first time in 9 years for the summer. They have always been traveling or at sleep away camp so I am so excited to spend the summer with my young adults. Keep being you and the wonderful mom and partner you are!

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  4. Nicole
    March 5, 2015 @ 11:45 pm

    Amen! I chose to stay home almost a decade ago and have been blessed with a supportive husband who allowed me to be able to do that and care for our three kids. I have an MBA and I choose to do what makes me happy and provide for my family. The first few years as a sahm I hated the question ‘What do you do?’ because my answer was ‘I am a mom.’ I felt judged, but then I realized the only one I need to answer to is me and my family. I am an act of service person to show love, so when I cook, clean and care for kids it makes my heart feel full. I know staying home with kids is not for everyone, but is everything for me. I love being there for my little ones and enjoy every moment.

    Great post Dana!

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    • triwivesclub
      March 6, 2015 @ 8:27 am

      Nicole, THANK YOU! And good for us! It is amazing what can happen when you make a decision with your partner for the whole of the family which includes us as moms. I don’t need to be anything but ME! Keep doing that too.

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  5. Searching for Ironman (Christina)
    March 10, 2015 @ 8:15 am

    Very well said! At the end of the day I believe it’s “Each to their own” and do what you believe is right for you and your family. In the early days of our marriage I still had my demanding but very stimulating career but it’s since lost its appeal and I’ve lost my ambition to work endless hours at it. I love my time with my family and have a non-stressful part-time job. And I also think nobody should ever judge another until they’ve walked a mile in that person’s shoes. Go for it, do what you believe is right!

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  6. Anna
    March 16, 2015 @ 9:26 pm

    I am not sure why people feel the need to stick their nose in someone else’s business and give advice to those around them… But they do.
    I feel like parenting always comes with guilt. There are so many ways to feel inadequate about! I chose to work 3 jobs while pregnant so I could stay home with my son after he was born. I feel like once you have kids you need to be there for them. I didn’t just stay home with him, I worked hard to be a good parent. When people told me I got lucky to have a smart kid I nodded my head and thought to myself that smart kids come to moms that put some effort into them from the get go. Exercise, healthy eating habits, natural delivery and hours of reading, singing and playing on top of meeting every need and loving your child work wonders 🙂 Keep rocking the Mom thing!

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    • triwivesclub
      March 17, 2015 @ 7:47 am

      Anna,
      You keep being you. I find it so hard sometimes but you are right we have to keep rocking the Mom thing! Parenting is so so tough but so so rewarding!

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  7. Denise Katelnikoff
    March 25, 2015 @ 12:45 pm

    Dana,

    Thank you for writing such a well worded article! I can totally relate to everything you said in the I am not that mom article!

    I have my BSW and my husband and I too made choices to build and live a lifestyle much like you and David! He is the business man and I am the behind the scenes support for our 2 compettive swimmers, busy business man/ tri athlete. I often get comments like ” your husband is lucky that you allow him to train and race like that!” Well first if all he is his own person and training and racing makes him happy! And I am happy to support him and the kids I every aspect of their lives! I am not hard done by! Just the opposite! I am truely fortunate! I get to be the mom and wife of 3 amazing individuals and I choose to work hard behind the scenes cooking, cleaning and volunteering endless hours at their swim meets etc.! Like you it makes me happy! And in turn I have been awarded with being able to travel internationally to support them in triathlon and swimming and see my husband and son’s reach their goals! And right now as my triathlete is out running in preparation for his race this weekend, I am doing what I want to do! Enjoying our family spring break with a quiet coffee in beautiful Palm Desert! And I wouldn’t change a thing!

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    • triwivesclub
      March 25, 2015 @ 3:58 pm

      Denise- You have me tearing up happy tears right now. I beat to my own drum like you, but sometimes the comments get overwhelming! So nice to have a soul sister…Enjoy the Palm Desert and hope our paths cross at the race soon. Enjoy the family!

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