1. Nicole Maki
    December 12, 2014 @ 10:18 am

    Thanks so much for writing this, Sherry. It really struck a chord with me.

    We are embarking on our 4th tri-season and while I may not be an old-pro tri-supporter I’ve certainly been around the block a few times.

    And yes, I’m guilty of most of the above examples. To be honest, I thought it was ‘helpful’ and ‘considerate’ to send him off with a buddy to one of the less spectator friendly races. But it wasn’t. It was just a nice way to avoid hotel room expenses, getting up at dawn and hanging around a cold reservoir all day for a glimpse of him here and there.

    But while missing the shivering boredom was great, I also missed how he lights up when he sees us and how he stands up taller and goes a little harder when we’re cheering.

    I can’t even remember the last time I took cowbells to a race… shame on me. I kinda thought they were just for noobs.

    One big change we made last season is that I went to all of my husband’s races but I left our teens home. It made it a bit more like a triathlon+date as opposed to wrangling a dozen moving parts. I noticed I cheered louder and made sure to never miss a chance to see him. Also, because the kids were not with us, I was a lot more diligent about posting to instagram and twitter and supporting him that way too.

    I’ll be watching this thread. Thanks again.


    • jbswdz
      December 12, 2014 @ 11:01 am

      Hi Nicole. I didn’t think I was alone out there in my feelings. Thanks for sharing. I know Carl also says it really gives him a boost to hear me yell words of encouragement on the course, but it can be very stressful (waiting for them to come by at the expected time & they don’t) and tiring out on the course for the supporter. I love the triathlon-date thing you did. Great solution!


  2. Jill
    December 12, 2014 @ 11:50 am

    Oh, trust me people, you’re not alone. I just think we all hate to admit our feelings for fear that we look like terrible people. As you said, it’s not that we don’t love the triathlete, but the sport sometimes…


    • jbswdz
      December 12, 2014 @ 11:59 am

      I’d love to hear from a triathlete and if they understand. Oh, what do I mean? I’m sure I’ll hear from mine and can report back!!!


  3. Connie
    December 12, 2014 @ 11:53 am

    Okay, you’ve scared me. I’m still in the “it’s all new and exciting phase”. Is this what I have to look forward to ?? And if so, when does it kick in?


    • jbswdz
      December 12, 2014 @ 12:01 pm

      Don’t be scared. You still have plenty of time and may never come for you. It’s like most things in life and you just have to work on getting the enthusiasm back.


  4. Anna
    December 30, 2014 @ 12:01 pm

    I am still a newbie, of course! But, just like with anything, the excitement of new wears off in time, right? I think this article is a wonderful reminder to all of us to remain proud of our triathletes and be there for them 🙂


    • jbswdz
      December 30, 2014 @ 3:14 pm

      Thanks Anna. That’s the message I was going for. It’s just hard to be excited for all the races after so many years, so we need to remember the person and not the sport…


  5. Kelly
    April 23, 2018 @ 10:43 am

    Fake it til you make it is what I’ve been doing. He needs me to be supportive and me being bored and unhappy is going to ruin it for him. So, I do what I see other people doing. And leave the kids home if they can’t fake it.


    • TriWivesClub
      April 25, 2018 @ 7:57 am

      I know the feeling. At least right now I’ve had a break for almost 2 years, so I’m hoping it all feels brand new next month!


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