Let’s talk about something a bit serious as triwives and tripartners…
I will start by saying I REALLY do love that my husband is a triathlete and the great lifestyle, health, and travel it brings to our lives. BUT, if I’m being totally honest – and I am – sometimes I get lonely. Now, I’m talking about life without the kids here – just triathlete and triwife.
Granted, our jobs are very different. He is a business executive and works a lot. Then, add to his day about 3 hours of workouts during the week and 4-6 hours on the weekends. Me, well I own my own business as a writer, social media consultant, and brand builder. I work from home mainly, but when I am away, it is usually for a few days to a week at a time with travel. I think this gives you a good picture about just how much time we spend apart.
So, there are times I inevitably get lonely, which leads to me getting upset about his workouts. After a long work day, when the end of the day comes, I am ready for some wine and chat, but surprise, he is off for another work out. In order to not have this turn into anything serious, we, and notice I say WE, had to come up with some creative solutions to make both of us happy.
Here are some of the ways we’ve worked out to resolve this issue:
- We changed our morning routine. Now, instead of hubby going to the pool, trainer, or to workout and then straight to the office, we are getting up 15 minutes earlier. I walk the dogs, prep breakfast, and then schedule my social media for the day. By that time, he is in the shower and I am making breakfast. We then sit down together and catch up before the day gets away from us.
- I head to his office every now and then to meet him for lunch.
- We communicate about his workouts and plan our time around them. If he has a light workout night, we make sure to go out to dinner when he is done.
- I organize my day so that when he has an evening bike ride, I take the first few minutes of it and sit with him while he warms up and we chat. I might even pour a glass of wine and make this our “happy hour”!
- Once the kids went off to college, I started to do things on my own at night when either he is working late or has a long workout. I like to attend the theater, National Geographic Live Lectures, and other great events in the community. Granted, this is not for everyone, but I have always been comfortable doing things alone.
So, whether you work in or outside the home, you know the life of a triwife/partner is much different from the life of a triathlete and we are left with plenty of alone time to fill. And, while I still get lonely as the triwife, I am learning how to get past it. It’s just that there are some days that are much harder than others…