1. Michelle Bazis
    April 9, 2015 @ 10:50 am

    Great post Dana! My husband rides motocross, so I know the feeling. During race season (8 months of the year) we missed a lot of afternoons together so he could train at the closest track, which is 45 minutes away, or do maintenance on his bike. Weekends were often taken over by driving and camping for practice/race weekend. It can get lonely since the few women (if any) who come to the track are very busy mothers. I think the most important thing is how much it means to our husbands; he tells me every weekend that every other guy wishes their girlfriend or wife would come to the track. I started @dirtwife on instagram for wives like me – similar to triwives. Keep it up!


    • triwivesclub
      April 9, 2015 @ 1:10 pm

      Thanks Michelle…heading over to IG to follow!


  2. Anna
    April 18, 2015 @ 11:36 pm

    Well, we live an hour away from each other, we each have a kid, a job and I am back in school and he has his training 🙂 Did that sound busy? We have been dating for almost a year now and it can be challenging to find time for each other, but we try 🙂 We were both on our own for a while before we met, so doing things alone was not a big deal (are you really, ever, alone when you are raising a kid?). We cherish our times together. Do I ever wish he trained less and saw me more? Sometimes.


    • triwivesclub
      April 19, 2015 @ 2:19 pm

      It sounds like you have worked things out. It’s never easy in this lifestyle and for us, it really is ever changing. If fact, it is right now. Last words were, “I refuse to do another Ironman if I have to shuffle in the run.” So, have no idea what’s in store! Let us know which races you are going to.


  3. Valerie
    May 4, 2015 @ 9:30 am

    Good to hear solutions for this problem. My husband and I are empty nesters and while I also am proud of his accomplishments in his training and events, I feel torn. Personally, I have many things that I love to do, but having a hard time doing most everything alone. My Tri is very obsessive right down to weighing his food. While I would like to go and support him, if I go it is difficult as he likes to take his special food to the hotel. He has a hard time finding balance and tends to be in his own world. If I try to talk to him about it, he becomes defensive and accuses me of not being supportive. I’m very active and not a needy woman but recently came home from a week long trip which he seemed to miss me during (texting, sending pictures, FaceTime), but upon returning, he had a hard time adjusting his schedule to spend any time together which both hurt my feelings and surprised me. We actually have a good marriage and friendship, buts once he began competitions, the whole thing is taking its toll. Anyone experience this type of situation?


    • TriWivesClub
      May 5, 2015 @ 1:48 pm

      Valerie- I hear ya! It is tough and we just work through it all day by day keeping communication clear and I tell him how I feel. One thing that really has helped with food is the app MyFitnessPal! Check out my new post on Triathlons becoming part of our lives, took years and years but it finally happened. Keep us posted.


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